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The “I Don’t Know” Phase

Hey guys! Welcome back. You probably clicked on this post for one or two of two reasons. Either you opened it because you read all of my posts (for that I am eternally grateful) or you opened it because you yourself are in the “I Don’t Know” phase and feel exactly how I feel and want to know how I dealt with it. Or maybe for a third reason you don’t know what this is and want to learn about.

For those people allow me to explain. The “I Don’t Know” phase is a phase most people go through, particularly college students in their freshman and sophomore years, where they don’t have an answer for anything. They don’t know who they are, where they are going, what they want to do, why they are even in college, or the path they want to go down. It’s a popular struggle.

I went through this phase myself. In the process I changed my major five times, transferred schools, took a semester off, and changed my mind A LOT. So many things happened that no one knew what I was doing, where I was going, or what I wanted to do. There are people who still don’t know where I go to school because of course I changed my mind about that a lot too.

I have a post about choosing a major that I will try to link down below. If you are struggling and are suffering through the “I Don’t Know” phase, know at least that you are not alone. Most college students go through this at some point. My suggestion is to sit down and start making lists.

The first list you should make is the list of things you want to do or might want to do. Maybe there is only one thing you want to do. Maybe there is only one thing on this list. Maybe there are seven. It doesn’t matter how long or short the list all possible options. The second list should be places that offer what you want. That may mean transferring and that’s okay. All in all, make a plan for yourself. Map out what you want and then do it. Don’t stay in any situation (major, college, etc.) that you aren’t 110% comfortable and sure about. Make the necessary decisions and change your mind as many times as it takes to figure out what you really want.

Don’t let anyone discourage you. It is not their life you are living. You are living your life and you should make decisions that are best for you, not for anyone else. Surround yourself with people that support, encourage, and motivate you. Follow this blog for more college ideas and tips because I post a lot of them. Check out my other posts if you still feel like your in a rut. Also, feel free to comment below any questions or requests you have.

Long story short, the “I Don’t Know” phase is pretty much inevitable, but it is temporary. You will figure it out with time, patience, and determination. You just have to decide what you really want. Take classes in as many different areas as you can and you just might find your calling. Keep trying and the plan will come. Don’t give up!

Thank you so much for reading! Please like this if you enjoyed it. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

Feeling Ugly

Hey guys! Welcome back. I have struggled my entire life with feeling ugly. I never felt good enough or wanted. I felt irrelevant and unseen unless someone was doing something terrible to me. I know many people feel this way. Some people feel so bad about themselves and their life that they struggle to get out of bed and leave their house. It’s not a physical tired, it’s mental and emotional that takes a toll on the body.

You never know what someone is going through. You never know what kind of strength and courage it takes some people to keep living. I dealt with this in the past. I struggled with wanting to look like other people and be like other people. I wanted to be noticed and I wanted people to want to be around me. I didn’t know how other people did it. I thought there was like a secret or something. I just wanted to fit in and belong.

All girls at some point in their life feel ugly. Guys feel it to, but girls have more pressure to look good. Why? Because companies and businesses target us. They convince us that we need a certain product or we do a certain thing or follow a certain idea to be beautiful. To feel pretty we need whatever they are offering us and then of course we buy into it and it’s like a domino effect. They hire celebrities and spokespeople to help convince us because they know we listen and watch these people.

Every girl has an insecurity. Maybe it’s weight, or hair, or intelligence, or anything else. Maybe you feel like you are missing something that makes you pretty, that makes you belong. Really you aren’t missing anything. The thing that is going to set you apart and make you one of the most beautiful people in the world is one simple thing. It is kindness. When you are kind to someone it makes them feel wanted and loved. And someone, maybe not that person, but someone will be kind to you.

Everyone deserves kindness. We don’t always know or understand what others are going through. We don’t always empathize with people when we should. We all have bad days, we all have different struggles and mountains to climb. It’s a reality we face. So instead of tearing each other down because we feel down, we should lift each other up to help us get over these mountains together. We are all human and we all deserve respect.

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this and I hope it encouraged you and inspired you. Please like this post if you did. Comment below your thoughts and reactions on the matter. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you are not already and I really hope to see you next time!

You Exist All On Your Own

Hey guys! Welcome back. I wanted to write this because I think the title makes an excellent point. We exist all on our own. So I wanted to develop and expand it. I hope you enjoy it!

We live in a society full of busy people going from one place to the next. We are never really alone because we are surrounded by people everyday. But sometimes we feel alone and that can be one of the worst feelings. I have struggled with this for most of my life. I felt alone and unwanted for most of my childhood.

But one day I realized that I’m still alive. I exist even thought I feel alone. My heart is beating and I am breathing. I am not defined by how others see me. My purpose in life or my value not determined by my relationships. It is determined by my place in the world and what I choose to do with it.

You may feel alone, but I promise you’re not. You are alive for a reason. You don’t need other people to validate your worth. You have to do that yourself. You have to be okay with being alone and taking care of yourself in order to ever be truly happy and content with anyone else. Don’t think that you just because you are alone or feel lonely that you will never have friends or a significant other. Great relationships take time to build, grow, and develop.

You can’t rush anything especially if you want it to be right. Sometimes things just happen. Just because you are lonely today doesn’t mean that you will be tomorrow. Life can surprise you. You exist all on your own. Your life means just as much as everyone else’s. Don’t discredit yourself for being you. It’s a wonderful thing to be you. No one else can do it like you do.

Thank you so much for reading! Please like this if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

It’s Time To Let Go of the “All Guys Are the Same” Mentality

Hey guys! Welcome back. There are times when I will be scrolling through a website or through social media and I will see something that makes me want to respond. Not necessarily to the person who wrote it or said it specifically, but to my readers in general. It’s worked out fine in the past, so I figured I would do it again.

Someone (probably more than just one person) said that all men are the same. This individual was referring that all men are lazy, arrogant, and only care about themselves. While I do agree that there are plenty of men in the world like this, not ALL men are the same. We think that because we tend to associate ourselves with the guys who act this way. But there are good guys out there.

There are good guys out there. Not the fake kind that only tell you what you want to hear, but real, genuine good guys. Guys that care and want a relationship. Guys that support you and love you and encourage you. Maybe not guys, maybe just guy.

You encounter all these selfish, inconsiderate guys because you haven’t found the right one yet. But he is coming. You just have to be patient and don’t settle for anyone who you aren’t sure about. Continue to be yourself and the right person will come along. Don’t give yourself up just because you don’t want to be alone. Live your life, don’t worry about boys, and he will show up when you least expect him to.

Focus on yourself. Chase your dreams and pursue your goals and ambitions. Life is more than being in a relationship. It’s about living up to your full potential and living life the way you want to. You will find that person when it is meant to be. You can’t rush fate and you can’t force a relationship that isn’t there. You have to be open and allow your heart to be ready for the right person.

Don’t feel like you are missing something or you are missing out just because you aren’t in a relationship. You can live a successful, fulfilling life without being in a relationship. You need to be happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else. You need to love and respect yourself before you can offer that to someone else. So keep living your life and don’t get distracted by anyone who isn’t the perfect person.

Not all men are bad. And if you allow yourself to fall for the wrong guys you will always have that mentality. Know what you want and what you deserve and accept nothing less. Keep you heart open to the right person and refuse to settle. Some guys are terrible, but that doesn’t mean that the right one won’t be the best.

Thank you so much for reading! Please like this if you enjoyed it. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

Ruining My Reputation

Hey guys! Welcome back. When I first started college I was in a rough spot in my life. Some really terrible things happened in the previous months and I didn’t know where I stood. I wasn’t doing very well emotionally and took a toll on me physically. I was so lost and confused and wasn’t sure if I even belonged or deserved to go to college.

My heart was broken and I was shattered. No, it wasn’t a boy. It was a family crisis. My life had almost come to an end and I was hollow. I felt nothing. I went into college alone, confused, shy, and insecure. I was so sure that the best thing to do was shut myself off from the world. I didn’t want to make friends immediately because I didn’t want to drag innocent people into my mess of a life. Little did I know God had other plans.

I made some great friends and have made more friends since. I am no longer the girl who was insecure and quiet. I am now the girl who is seen as a leader, a teacher, and a person worth knowing. My life has grown drastically in just a couple of years. I never thought all my hopes and dreams would be answered. I never knew God actually heard me. But He did. And He gave me what I wanted and needed. I had to wait, but it was worth it. I’m glad I held on and had faith.

My life wasn’t great in the beginning, but it took an unexpected turn toward greatness. I am now becoming the person I’ve wanted to be all along. I have great friends, great goals, and a lot of things to look forward to. I am hopeful for the future and all that it brings.

My reputation wasn’t great. It wasn’t the worst, but it wasn’t the best either. I was known as being weak and incapable. I wasn’t able to do anything and leaving wasn’t going to help me. People didn’t think I would make it, but here I am. Not only am I surviving I’m thriving. I finally found my element. I ruined my reputation and made my life my own. I gave people a new way to look at me. I shattered that negativity and gave people someone new to know.

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed it and I hope it inspired you in your own life. Please like it if you did. Don’t ever let anyone tell you how to live your life. Don’t forget to follow if you are not already and I hope to see you next time!

The Change You Should Make

Hey guys! Welcome back. We live in a world that is constantly changing. We often want to change the things around us. Still some of us despise change and want things to stay the same. Regardless, things change and we have to accept it. Sometimes we can’t control even the things we wish we could. We can’t change those around us or the circumstances we are a part of. Life happens and sometimes we just have to go with it.

However, there is one thing we have the ability to control or change in most cases. Ourselves. Every individual has the opportunity to want to grow and change if they desire. You can start right now and decide you want to be a better, more profound person. Or you could choose to stay the same if you want. It’s all up to you.

We can’t force other people to change. They have to want to. We can’t always control our situations or what we desire. But we can change how we feel and react. Life isn’t perfect, but neither are we. We can’t expect something that we can’t give. Sometimes we have bad days and sometimes we have good days. It’s all a matter of chance and circumstance.

So don’t get discouraged if life isn’t going your way. Things can change. If you had a bad day today, tomorrow could be your best day yet. Don’t be afraid to seek support and reach out to people who care about you. Don’t lash out on people. Accept the things that are happening and understand that it’s a bad day, not a bad life. Change the way you see yourself and your life. Be kind to yourself and love and appreciate the life you have been provided. It’s a beautiful thing.

Your time is limited so don’t waste it being bitter. Love yourself and be thankful for everyday. You never know when it will end. Learn to be content and give to others what you can. You never know whose life you may impact. Be kind and show love to the world. You can’t change others but you can change the way you view them. Don’t let yourself be bitter. We live in a bad enough world. Shed some light and be the light.

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed it. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

Six Things That Don’t Make You Better Than Other Girls

In today’s world we are always comparing ourselves to other people. Whether they are famous, someone we know, or someone who we casually walk past on our way to class, there is always someone we would rather be. But at the same time, we also have a tendency to judge other girls for their morals or habits or how they spend their Saturday nights. And in some ways maybe we have that right because they are probably judging us as well. But there are some things that don’t make you better than someone else. Here are six.

1. The fact that you don’t drink or go to parties.

You don’t have to drink or go to parties to have fun. It’s fine if you don’t. But some people do and just because they do doesn’t make them bad people or any less than you. That is a personal preference and one that should not be ridiculed. It’s fine to go and it’s fine to not go. That is a decision only you can make.

2. The fact that you don’t swear.

Some people don’t which is fine. However, I don’t see where that makes you any better of a person. Just because you don’t say it doesn’t mean you aren’t thinking it. And thinking it could be considered just as bad. So you can’t think you are better than someone else just because you watch the words you say.

3. If you don’t wear makeup.

Not wearing makeup in no way makes you a better person. It may mean that you have more confidence or you’re okay with how you look, or it could mean that you are simply too lazy to get up and put it on. Regardless it doesn’t make you a bad person for not wearing it, but it certainly doesn’t make you better than those that do.

4. If you aren’t in a sorority.

My college doesn’t have sororities and I can’t say if I would ever join one or not. But I don’t think there is anything wrong with choosing to be in one. I think it’s a great opportunity to make friends and feel a sense of community. It’s not all bad.

5. If you dress more conservatively.

Who cares how conservatively you dress? How does what you wear make you a good or bad person? I don’t think it matters.

6. How sexually active you are.

Whether you do it a lot or never at all does not determine your worth. We shouldn’t shame girls on how much or how little they have sex. The shaming happens on both ends. It doesn’t show your worth as a human based on how many guys you have slept with. There is more to life than that.

Thank you so much for reading! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Let me know in the comments if you agree with my list or if there is anything you would add. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

I Gave Up My Routine

Hey guys! Welcome back. I’ve been in college for nearly two years now and still haven’t learned effective time management. It’s just not something I am great at. I tried to set up a routine for this semester, but it just didn’t work out. Everyday is different and the things I need to do are different.

So I gave up my routine. I decided to make to-do lists everyday instead. This has proven to be more effective. Some days I just can’t get through a routine, but having a list is helpful because I know exactly what I need to get done. Routines work for some people, but they didn’t work for me.

Instead I take things one day at a time. Check out my post about creating an effective to-do list if that interests you. As college students we are always busy and no two days are typically alike. I can’t do the same things on Tuesday afternoon and Thursday afternoon because I have nothing on Tuesday, but Thursday is full all the way up to 8:00 p.m. So for 12 hours I am going non-stop.

So having a routine didn’t work for me. If it works for you, great. If not, don’t get discouraged. You’re not alone. Let us know in the comments what works for you and if you have tried both. Are there ways to make a routine more effective?

Thank you for stopping by! I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you have not already and I hope to see you next time!

Fall Break 2017

Hey guys! Welcome back. Fall break is over and I am back in my dorm room. It was a pretty interesting week. I finally got caught up on all of my homework. Now I just have to do the homework for tomorrow. Story of my life. But I am excited to be back and I am looking forward to the rest of the semester.

A few interesting things happened this past week. As I said I caught up on all the things II fell behind in during the first part of the semester. I spent time with some of my family and basically just spent the whole week laying in bed and resting as much as possible.

I also decided to give Tinder another try and so far it’s been positive. No complaints this time. I hope things continue to go the way they currently are. I am looking forward to what comes next.

Fall break was just what I needed it to be. It was just long enough. I rested well and got quite a bit accomplished. Next up is Thanksgiving which is only five weeks away! I’m looking forward to it already. That means Christmas is just a few weeks away!

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed this small little update on my life. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to check us out on Facebook and Twitter. I might make a Pinterest someday soon. Comment below how your fall break went below if you had one. Don’t forget to follow before you leave if you are not already and I hope to see you next time!

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