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How to Stop Underestimating Yourself

Hey guys! Welcome back. I’ve been there. There have been times in my 20 years of life where I have thought to myself, “You cannot do this. It’s too much.” And while at the time these thoughts had some legitimacy, it wasn’t entirely accurate. I was selling myself short when what I really needed to do was believe that I could and would conquer what I faced.

But I still struggle. I still can’t entirely grasp that I can do it. I, like most people, underestimate myself. Sometimes I feel like I am literally dying because honestly the amount of stress and pressure I am under feels like it’s just too much. There is no way that I can possibly make it through. But I do. I’ve always survived.

So why is it that I always feel stress when looking at a huge workload before I feel anything else? Why is my first reaction I can’t do this? What brings out that negativity? It may be the feelings of similar situations in the past resurfacing. It may be that I feel if I am really hard on myself I will push myself harder. Whatever the reason, it isn’t good.

I think our issue most of the time is not what we need to accomplish, but our reaction to it. Our issues lie within our own minds. We are too quick to respond. We don’t take a step back and let it process. So next time you feel stressed or overwhelmed, just remember that you’ve done it before and you will do it again. There is nothing stopping you but yourself.

You can do great things. Not everything will be easy, but if you want it, you can have it. You just have to be willing to work for it. Don’t let the stress become too much. Don’t let it freeze you out. Just keep going. You’ll make it.

Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship

Relationships can be difficult, but trying to keep a long distance relationship together and thriving is even more difficult. Especially if you’ve never done it before. But it doesn’t have to be impossible. As long as you love and care for one another, the relationship can and will last. Here are a few tips I personally learned that will help.

See it as an opportunity.

You have the opportunity to learn and grow. You need to learn how to live on your own before you can be happy living with someone else. Take the time you do have to really get to know the other person.

Set some ground rules.

Know what they expect and let them know what you expect. Be sure you both understand the others wants and needs. This will resolve many unwanted issues.

Communicate regularly and creatively. 

Communication is key in any relationship. So when doing long distance try calling, texting, video chatting, etc. Come up with exciting ways to communicate so you don’t get bored.

Talk dirty.

I know it sounds unconventional, but everyone has a sex drive. And when you can’t see one another you need to relieve that sexual tension somehow.

Do similar things.

Watch the same shows, read the same books, and things like this. This will give you things to talk about.

Visit one another.

It may not happen often, but you should still make plans to see each other. This will keep the romance alive.

Have a goal in mind.

Know what you want out of the relationship and what your partner wants out of it. Understand why you are in the relationship and what you are working for.

Enjoy your time apart.

Spend time with friends and family. Spend time with yourself. Enjoy being on your own.

Stay honest with each other.

Let them know when you’re scared or worried. Tell them what is going on and how you feel. Don’t hide your emotions.

Know each other’s schedules.

Know when the other person is busy, sleeping, or free. And tell them your schedule so you are on the same page. Schedule times to talk to one another. This will alleviate stress.

Give them something to hold on to.

Give them something special that will remind them of you.

Stay positive.

Don’t worry so much about what they are doing or who they are with. Learn to trust them and be secure in your relationship. Keep communicating.

What’s In My Purse

Hey guys! Welcome back. Today I decided to do a “What’s In My Purse?” post because a lot of people do them and I think they are cool. So let’s just do it.

These are a list of things I keep in my purse:

  • Chapstick
  • Keys
  • Gum
  • Wallet
  • Concealer
  • Headphones
  • An extra pen/pencil
  • Lipstick
  • Hand sanitizer

And that’s basically it. Thanks for reading!

 

Discovering Your Purpose

Hey guys! Welcome back. One of life’s biggest and toughest questions is “Why am I here?”. And sometimes there is no straightforward answer. We don’t all take an easy path to finding where we belong or what we are meant to do. But there are ways of figuring that out.

The first thing you will want to do is create a vision. What do you want to do? Where do you want to be in ten years? What qualities do you have have that you like? What are your hobbies? Create a vision based on what you know and like about yourself and work on finding a career from that. Don’t waste precious time following the wrong thing.

Another thing you want to do is look at what you spend time doing. If it takes up your time now, chances are it will will take up time in your future. So what’s the harm in figuring out if there is a career in that? Look at your hobbies. If it’s art, see what you can do with that. If it’s music, follow a music path. Whatever it is, if it’s your passion, follow that and build a vision off of it.

Talk to people. If you know someone with a career that interests you, talk to them. Ask them what they do on a day to day basis. Ask them about their salary and benefits. Find out what kind of education they needed, if any at all. Ask questions and don’t be afraid.

Look into things. Decide what you are most interested in and research it. There are plenty of possibilities and opportunities. All you have to do is invest a little time in it.

Trust yourself. One of the worst things you can do is doubt what you know. If you know there is something you really want to do, do it. It can be scary, but if it’s meant to be it will be. Trust your instincts and allow yourself to dream. Keep an open mind. You never know what will come your way.

Finally, commit to it. Once you know, commit. Of course, realize that you may change your mind. But once you have a basic idea get started. Don’t let anyone or anything tell you you can’t or shouldn’t. It’s your life. It’s your decision. Make it what you want. Make it about you. Don’t tell people what you are going to do, show them what you have done.

That’s all for this one. I hope you enjoyed it. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow if you’re not already and I will see you next time!

How to Start and Maintain a Conversation In College

Hey guys! Welcome back. I had a request to write something about how to start a conversation and keep it going in college. Going to college can be difficult if you don’t know anybody and if you are already not good at making friends you can easily get discouraged. But I have learned from experience that there is nothing quite as simple as making friends in college. And I am here to explain exactly how to do it. You don’t have to do all of these things, just pick the ones that make sense to you.

Tip #1: Be consistent.

I am starting with this because I want to make it clear that you can’t have one conversation with someone and then assume you are friends. Keep in touch.

Tip #2: Ask simple questions. The key to having a good first conversation is to keep things light in the beginning. Ask for a name. Ask them how they are doing. If they keep the conversation going, great. If not, don’t take it personally. Just move on. This is a great way to start a conversation though. It’s very casual and simple. Anyone can do it.

Tip #3: Talk to people you see regularly. If you live in a residence hall, talk to those who live around you. Talk to people you sit near in class. When you join a club or start an on-campus job get to know those people. You are going to see a lot of them, so you might as well be friends right?

Tip #4: Don’t worry so much about gender. If you are a girl, don’t be afraid to start up a conversation with a guy. If you are a guy, talk to a girl. Make it clear that you just want to be friends. This may seem uncomfortable, but it’s really not. Just allow yourself to be open with the possibility of being friends with the opposite gender.

Tip #5: Ask about their college experience. Ask them how they like college. If you are both freshman, ask them how they are adjusting. Ask them what they do during their free time. Talk about events going on. If there is one thing you are the other person have in common it is that you are both college students.

Tip #6: Tell a joke. If you see something funny happen, make a joke about it to the person standing next to you. Or just tell a funny joke you know. Anything to make you both more comfortable.

Tip #7: Use body language. Don’t close yourself off. Be open. Smile. Maintain as much eye contact as you can.

Tip #8: Find common ground. Aside from being college students, it’s good to find out if you have other things in common. Find out what their major is and tell them yours. If they are the same, talk about why you chose it. Talk about what you love about it and what you don’t particularly care for. If they are different, talk about each different major. Describe yours and allow them to describe theirs. This is a great way to get a good conversation going because you are talking about something you are hopefully passionate about. If you are undecided, talk about what you are thinking about. Also, you could talk about distance from home. If you both live far away from home, you could talk about adjusting and feeling homesick. Ask about clubs they plan to join and compare class schedules. Find out if you will ever see this person again.

Tip #9: Acknowledge the awkward, embrace the awkward. When having a conversation with someone you don’t know, it can feel awkward. Just acknowledge to the other person that you know it’s awkward. This will help you both feel more comfortable because you are embracing it. It doesn’t have to be scary.

Tip #10: Keep it natural. Don’t try to talk to someone you don’t want to be friends with. Don’t try to talk about things you don’t know about. Don’t try to impress anyone. Just be yourself and talk about things that you want to talk about.

Tip #11: Tell stories. Talk about your past. Tell stories about high school. Talk about your home and your family. Talk about your pet(s). Let the person get to know you and get to know them as well.

Tip #12: Be confident. But don’t be arrogant. Don’t be afraid to start up a conversation with someone. If it doesn’t work, just move on. Don’t take it personally. You won’t become friends with everyone you talk to and that’s okay. Just stay true to yourself.

Those are my tips for starting and maintaining a conversation in college. Making new friends can seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. Put yourself out there and your friends will come naturally. Don’t try to force anything. Give it time and it will happen. What is meant to be will be. Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Comment your requests and let me know what other advice you are seeking. Don’t forget to follow if you are not already and I will see you next time!

Weekly Preview (8/14-8/20)

Hey guys! Welcome back. I hope you are enjoying your weekend. I had to work Saturday, so my weekend is short. But it’s Sunday, so it’s time for next week’s preview. Let me know what you are looking forward to, any special requests you have, and any thoughts you have. I look forward to this week and hope to have some great content for you guys.

Monday 8/14–“Discovering Your Purpose” As a part of motivating yourself, it helps when you know what your purpose in life is. But that does not mean that your life is defined by whether or not you know your purpose.

Tuesday 8/15–“Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship” All relationships can be difficult, but long distance relationships can be especially tough. Not all of them last. I have a few tips on how you can keep your relationship feeling fresh and keep it going.

Wednesday 8/16–“Why It’s Time To Stop Underestimating Yourself” You can do quite literally anything you want. As long as you actually desire it. You shouldn’t say you can’t do something. Because you can. It’s a matter of will.

Thursday 8/17–“Why You Shouldn’t Let Go of the Past” Your past, whether you like it or not, is a huge part of who you are. It’s not something to “let go of” or “move on from”.. It’s something to learn from. You should grow and become a better version of your past. But it is a part of you.

Friday 8/18–“Taylor Swift”. Should I do favorite songs? Favorite quotes? A ranking of hairstyles? You decide!

Saturday 8/19–“Why You Should Move In Whenever You Are Ready” In today’s society there is a lot of pressure in relationships. You’re either moving too fast or moving too slow. You should do things at your own pace.

And Sunday starts it all back up again. I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Thank you so much for reading. Let me know what you are looking forward to. Don’t forget to follow if you are not already and I will see you next time!

Awesome Blogger Award

Hey guys! Welcome back. I was nominated for the Awesome Blogger Award. I wasn’t really anticipating this, but I am so thankful. Thank you lifeonplanetearth2017 for the nomination. It means so much. And since I have to answer and ask ten questions, let’s just jump into this.

Rules:

  • Thank the person who nominated you (already did this).
  • Tag it under #awesomebloggeraward in the Reader.
  • Answer the questions your nominator gave you.
  • Nominate at least five awesome bloggers.
  • Give your nominees ten new questions to answer.
  • Let your nominees know that they’ve been nominated.

Questions:

  • If you were granted one wish, what would you wish for?
    • Ummm…to be able to only do the things I want. I would wish for a clone to do the rest. Lame right?
  • Who/what has inspired you the most?
    • Lorelai Gilmore.
  • What is your daily mantra?
    • What is meant to be will be.
  • What do you like most about yourself?
    • My kindness.
  • What do you do when you want to relax yourself?
    • Listen to music, go for a walk, bubble bath.
  • One song that describes your life right now.
    • “Second Wind” by Maren Morris
  • What do you fear the most?
    • Failure.
  • What do you think is the best thing that could happen to you right now?
    • Winning the lottery.
  • How do you describe yourself?
    • Kind, intelligent, witty, quirky.
  • If you could live the rest of your life in an anime, or movie what would it be and why?
    • Gilmore Girls. Because I don’t watch many movies and Gilmore Girls is life.

Five bloggers I nominate:

Life With Karla, The Readers Bay, Bayance, A Bit Better, and Quirk It.

My ten questions:

  1. What would be your dream vacation spot?
  2. What would be your perfect job?
  3. Who do you most wish to be like?
  4. If you were given another chance, what is the first thing you would change in your life?
  5. What is your favorite TV show?
  6. If there was a movie about your life, who would play your character?
  7. What is your favorite song?
  8. What is your greatest accomplishment/what are you most proud of?
  9. Do you have a life plan? If so, is it going as planned?
  10. What is your biggest fear?

Thank you so much for reading. Congratulations to those who were nominated. I look forward to reading your answers. Please be sure to like this. Don’t forget to follow if you’re not already and I will see you next time.

How To Make It Through Welcome Week Like A Champ

Hey guys! Welcome back. It’s time for college to start again, and with a new year comes Welcome Week. Not every college has them. The first college I went to didn’t have one, but the school I go to now does. Welcome week is one of the best weeks of the year. It’s a time to meet new people, learn about the surroundings, get lots of free stuff, and find your place. However, there is a lot that Welcome Week entails that you should be prepared for. So here are five very generic tips that will help you immensely during your first week on campus.

1. Plan ahead.

There is usually a schedule of some sort that you are either sent in the mail or it’s posted on the website. Either way you can look at it and decide what you want to attend and what you want to pass on. You don’t have to go to everything. Plan ahead so you know what to be prepared for.

2. Make the most of the club fair.

If there is one Welcome Week event I insist you go to it is the Club Fair. It’s a great way to find out what your school offers, meet new people, and get some free stuff. DON’T SIGN UP FOR EVERY CLUB!!! Just find two or three you are interested in, attend their first few meetings, and see which ones you actually want to join.

3. Put yourself out there. 

Don’t be afraid to talk to people. They are in the same situation you are in and will probably be glad you decided to chat with them. It makes making new friends a whole lot easier. Talk to people when you are standing in line at the dining hall. Talk to the people who live on your hall. Talk to the person you meet in the bathroom. You never know who you will end up being friends with.

4. Don’t worry about finding your new best friend right away.

With that being said, you won’t know who your best friends are right away. These things take time. Get to know people and let them get to know you. What is meant to be will be.

5. Have fun! But don’t party too hard. Welcome Week also comes with college parties. If you choose to go, be safe. Your first week of college is fun and you want to make sure you can remember it. So have fun, but not too much fun.

College is great and so is Welcome Week. Make the most of it. Don’t complain, just let yourself enjoy it. Make some friends, join a club, and get some free stuff. College is nothing without the free stuff. I hope you enjoyed this. Please like it if you did. Don’t forget to follow before you leave and I will see you next time.

FiveWays Your Life Gets Better When You Learn To Trust Yourself

Hey guys! Welcome back. We all have a gut feeling. That conscious feeling that tells us if we are right or wrong. We don’t always have complete faith in that feeling. We sometimes ignore it and do whatever we please, all the while knowing we should listen. But when you learn to trust yourself and that feeling, your life begins to change.

When you start trusting yourself, making decisions becomes easier. We are faced with several choices throughout the day and we make many decisions without even  realizing that we are doing it. But sometimes we struggle with certain decisions. Trusting yourself can make this easier and help you when it comes time to face this challenge.

If you are anything like me, you seek validation from everyone. I, for some reason, can’t find the courage to do my own thing. I need others’ opinions and that tends to get me in trouble. I find that what other people think contradicts what I think, but I get so caught up in pleasing others that I forget to make myself happy. You don’t have to ask for permission. Trusting yourself will help get you out of the habit of constantly asking for others’ approval. Asking for advice is one thing, but needing people to accept and approve your every decision is harmful and risky.

One thing that I have learned is that I don’t know everything. I don’t know what i should do, how I should do it, or even why I’m doing it. I fail. But I still trust myself. Why? Because even though I don’t have all the answers, I know more about what is best for me than anyone else.Failure is a part of life. And I have learned more from it than I have the things I have succeeded at. You can’t be afraid to fail. You have to get back up.

Commitment is scary. I’ve changed my mind so many times I’m not sure what I want anymore. But commitment is part of trusting yourself. This is the part that gets me. I’m afraid that if I commit and change my mind I will be unhappy. I want to have a nice, successful life. But if I commit to the wrong thing, this may not happen. But I’ve realized that it’s time to settle down and choose a path. Whatever it is, I have to trust myself to make the right decision.

You don’t always get a lot of time time make your decisions. Timing is everything. You need to know how to make fast decisions. Trusting yourself will make this easier as well. Once you have a good grasp on who you are and what you are doing, these decisions will become more natural and you will make them more quickly.

Trusting yourself can be difficult. We aren’t always sure that we can make the right decision. Especially the first time. But failing is okay as long as you learn from it. I hope you enjoyed this and learned from it as well. Be sure to like this and follow if you’re not already. I’ll see you next time!

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